Kink, Attachment & Somatics #3 - Is you play opening you up or replaying old wounds?
A House of Play Workshop with Li Tadaa
Have you ever wondered where you kinks and turn-on comes from?
In Kink, Attachment & Somatics #3 we will explore the underlying needs and longings that drives our sexual desire - and maybe transform them into something new…
OBS! New people AND those who took part in K!nk, Attachment and Somatics #1 or #2 are welcome!
I’ve spent over 10 years in the sex-positive, kink, and tantra world. I remember the high of getting into a new kind of play, domination, ropes, energy sex etc and feeling almost addicted to getting more of it, do you recognize this pattern?
This infatuation can lead us to empowerment and new discoveries or it may lead us into a pitfall. I created this workshop for us to learn the difference.
I want to offer you a space to get radically honest about your play—
Is it bringing you into deeper connection, or is it sometimes a chase to experience something you felt last time?
Is it helping you stay present… or makes you lose your center and power?
These workshops let you:
Explore whether your play is healing or reenactment
Feel into how present you actually are when you're in your desires
Recognize the difference between adult sexual longing and unmet childhood needs
Reconnect to play that is nourishing, conscious, and connected—AND—true to what we ACTUALLY need and not what we THINK we need.
We’ll use tools from somatic trauma therapy (SE), attachment work (NARM), Family Constellation, and embodied awareness, but we’ll also dance, play, and have fun. Because for me, joy and connection are the foundation for deeper healing.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Dance, Play and Connect!
Somatic Awareness – Recognize your nervous system states & grounding tools
Learning to discern when I’m present and when I’m “chasing” highs unconsciously
(If time) Embodied Adult Play – What mature, conscious, connected play can feel like
READ MORE DETAILS AT THE BOTTOM
WHO IS IT FOR?
For you who want to understand the deeper emotional layers behind your play and “do the work” even if it’s uncomfortable.
This workshop is not for complete beginners—it’s for those of you who’ve been playing for a while and feel ready to go deeper into awareness, embodiment, and emotional understanding
You need to have some basic ability to hold yourself if something big comes up
SHOULD I BRING A PARTNER?
No partner is needed, and all constellations are welcome—singles, couples, throuples, undefined.
WHAT TO WEAR
Wear something comfortable that you can move freely in
WHAT TO BRING
A water bottle with a lid
Maybe a notebook
Your beautiful self exactly as you are
TICKETS
280 kr for members
350 kr for non-members
20% Discount for Students and people with low-income, please reach out to us at info@houseofplay.dk
Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here
Please be aware that the workshop starts on time and it will not be possible to arrive later.
CODE OF CONDUCT
Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct
🌶️ OF 4: You will be more emotionally challenged than sexually challenged in this workshop, but if there were emotional chillies, that could be three or four - we will have emotional support in the room
Read more about the House of Play Chili system here
💌 Come Play With Me
I don’t want to tell anyone how to play.
I’m not here to shame anyone’s desire.
But I am here to offer more options, so that your kink, your turn-on, your rituals of intimacy and pleasure can come from a place of clarity, presence, and deep self-love.
Let’s Grow up together.
With love,
Li Tadaa
ABOUT THE FACILITATOR
Li Tadaa is a renowned workshop leader in Europe, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a dancer, and a Lust Coach with more than 15 years of experience in movement and embodiment.
Li’s knowledge of dance and routes to pleasure from traditions around the globe is combined with an understanding of the nervous system, dance therapy, somatic trauma healing, shamanism, and meditation practices.
Through her Dance Into Your Lust and Grow Up programs, Li has helped over a thousand people reconnect with their inner safety, pleasure, and adult selves.
Read more about Li at www.litadaa.com and follow her on Instagram.com/lustcoach
Some background theory we’ll touch on:
Using Intensity to Dissociate into Ecstasy
Example: intense spanking, blindfolds, tantric orgasms, etc.
Potential benefits: bliss, new perspectives, escape from anxiety
Potential risks: disconnection from emotions, reinforcing flight/freeze states, relying on leaving the body to feel pleasure
→ Solution: Learn to recognize your nervous system states and practice playing within your window of tolerance
Unmet Childhood Needs Driving Adult Sexual Desires
Example: Feeling anxious before play but great relief after, feeling desperate for play, feeling low or anxious when you don’t get it,
Potential benefits: Can be an efficient way to move out of difficult emotions, better than numbing with substances; can be part of healing
Potential risks: addiction to sexual highs, anxious/avoidant dynamics or emotional dependency in relationships, reenactment of trauma
→ Solution: Learn to meet childhood needs in non-sexual ways and engage from your mature self in adult play.
💡 What does “overcoupling” mean?
In somatic trauma therapy, overcoupling refers to when two experiences or emotions get neurologically “tied together” as one. Often, this is a leftover strategy from childhood.
Examples:
I cry instead of getting angry—because anger wasn’t safe growing up.
I get horny every time I’m anxious—because masturbation or sex became my way to self-soothe.
I can’t be alone—because I overcoupled romantic love with parental safety.
When we bring presence to these patterns, we can start to untangle them—and open up new possibilities for how we relate, love, and play.