An intimate, playful, conscious & kinky series of rituals for couples
Love thrives in the familiar. Desire loves the mystery.
Rituals of Mystery is a series of three immersive rituals for couples who want to actively nurture intimacy and rediscover each other; through play, presence, polarity and conscious kink.
Each ritual stands fully on its own. Come to one, two, or all three. Together they form a journey through desire, trust and the body; separately, each is a complete experience in itself.
Why call it a ritual? Rituals are defined by a clear start and end point, they allow us to step out of everyday space-time and into a suspended place where meaning is created through intentionality. For some this framing enhances their experience and gives it depth, for others the impact is more subtle. We invite you to be curious.
No prior experience with kink or rituals needed, and you can attend any or all rituals - no prerequisites.
A gentle entry point for those who are curious about the world of kink but a little intimidated by it, where the focus stays on exploration between you and your partner, and everything moves at a pace you set.
"In order to maintain desire with one person over time we must be able to bring a sense of the unknown into a familiar space." — Esther Perel
Ritual lII — Serious Play & Unexplored Desires
What happens when we take play seriously?
Play is such a powerful entry point into the unknown. Play is inherently creative and has no end-goal.
We play for the sake of playing and not in order to get somewhere.
Play connects us to the mystery by tapping into creativity, and creativity is surprising, and novel by definition!
When we let ourselves become fully absorbed in play, when it becomes our whole world for a while, something opens. The mind quiets down and desires surface. And the question becomes: do you dare to reveal them?
This ritual is a gentle, consent-forward introduction to different types of play: role-play, power play, dominance and submission.
Through guided parts-work, you will get to explore some of the characters that live inside you. You will get the opportunity to tap into aspects of yourselves that usually don’t get a lot of space and let them express themselves more fully in a held container.
Through exercises built around trust, communication, leadership, surrender and intentional touch, you'll get to try on both sides of the power dynamic, an experience many find surprisingly revealing.
You'll get the chance to step out of your usual patterns of who leads, who decides, who does what and instead get to try out new and exciting roles.
We will explore serious play and answer questions such as:
How do you enter and leave a scene? What do you actually do? What if you get stuck? How do you negotiate consent in this kind of play? Is it even okay to hold power over someone you love?
This asks for vulnerability. Together we'll build the trust it needs, notice when it isn't there, and make room for that too.
You'll leave with a felt sense of what power exchange can be between you when it is playful, negotiated, and safe(r). You’ll get a set of tools for exploring it further at home.
This is Ritual III of three. It stands completely on its own, and no prior ritual is needed to join.
The Structure:
Communal landing and grounding:
Together we slow down, exit the everyday world and enter into ritual space, a space guided by awareness and intentionality and separate from regular reality. You’ll get to meet the other couples and to ease into this space.
Explorations:
Most of this journey will be the preparation for the ritual play space. We will be exploring the themes of Role Play, Parts-work & Unexplored Desires.
We will dive deep into the world of play, getting to know ourselves and allowing hidden aspects of ourselves to come forward. Parts of you that your partner might only have seen glimpses of. We explore what happens when we take those parts seriously and give them space fully.
We will work with mapping out unexplored desires collectively and individually, allowing you to own them and playfully explore them with your partner.
Ritual play space:
The journey concludes in a ritual play space, a space held for you and your partner to play with what you learned and explored throughout the day.The culmination of the day. This exploration can take many different forms and while you get a clear frame to guide you, you also get the freedom to explore within it.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
Rituals of Mystery is created mainly for established couples who want to reconnect and rediscover each other, but it's open to others too. This is for the brave who dare to venture beyond what they already know, or think to know about each other. For those who are ready to explore themselves and each other anew.
Couples of all ages, across all genders, identities and relationship dynamics are warmly welcome, whether you've been together three days or thirty years.
CAN I JOIN AS A BEGINNER?
Yes: Complete beginners, experienced kinksters, and everyone in between belong here equally.
DO I NEED A PARTNER?
Yes, these rituals are designed for you and a partner, you cannot attend alone.
DRESSCODE
Wear something comfortable that you can move around freely in. We encourage you to dress up and wear something that fits the vibe: sensual, nice to touch, something that your partner will appreciate. Please no street wear.
WHAT TO BRING
Bring a water bottle, a journal and a pen for taking notes and some of the exercises. Bring a sarong or towel to put underneath you.
TIMES
Doors open at 12.30 to land softly in the space
Doors close and we start at 13:00, no late entry
We end at 18.00
TICKETS
560 kr per couple for members
700 kr per couple for non-members
We offer a 20% discount to students and low income. Discounts cannot be used on top of other discounts. Please reach out to info@houseofplay.dk Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here
CODE OF CONDUCT
Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct
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ABOUT THE FACILITATORS
Hi, I’m Philipp (he/him) (call me Pyt). I’ve been creating intimate events and workshops for years. I love creating spaces where people can explore, play, unfold and enjoy themselves. I am particularly excited about this workshop series as it will be my first time bringing my more kink adjacent offerings to Copenhagen.
I work as a life coach and kink facilitator. Check out more at www.softkink.dk and www.softerdating.dk
Laura Tatar (she/they) has a connection kink and a passion for facilitating transformation and healing through humor and play, especially around “the things people don’t want to talk about”. She teaches and holds spaces for consent, boundaries, conflict, and grief - guiding folks on their journeys to accepting more parts of themselves in favor of wholeness and authenticity. Laura is a theatre creator, holds a Masters in Social Work for Crisis and Trauma, and has facilitated workshops and supported consent angels in various S+ spaces.