An intimate, playful, conscious & kinky series of rituals for couples
Love thrives in the familiar. Desire loves the mystery.
Rituals of Mystery is a series of three immersive rituals for couples who want to actively nurture intimacy and rediscover each other; through play, presence, polarity and conscious kink.
Each ritual stands fully on its own. Come to one, two, or all three. Together they form a journey through desire, trust and the body; separately, each is a complete experience in itself.
Why call it a ritual? Rituals are defined by a clear start and end point, they allow us to step out of everyday space-time and into a suspended place where meaning is created through intentionality. For some this framing enhances their experience and gives it depth, for others the impact is more subtle. We invite you to be curious.
No prior experience with kink or rituals needed, and you can attend any or all rituals - no prerequisites.
A gentle entry point for those who are curious about the world of kink but a little intimidated by it, where the focus stays on exploration between you and your partner, and everything moves at a pace you set.
"In order to maintain desire with one person over time we must be able to bring a sense of the unknown into a familiar space." — Esther Perel
Ritual II — Exploring Presence through the Senses
The mystery calls for presence. When we are caught in our minds with its ideas and mental constructs we are removed from reality as it is. By letting go of ideas of likes and dislikes and listening to the body, moment-to-moment instead, you will discover new patterns and qualities of touch that you and your partner enjoy, far away from habit and repetition.
In this ritual we explore what unfolds when we tap into presence and let go of ideas around what we like and don’t like.
Sensation loves slowness. Presence. Space to breathe. Intensity is never a goal in itself. It's something that grows out of trust, build-up and care.
This ritual is all about creating the space necessary to feel a play on the spectrum between subtlety and intensity.
You will explore different kinds of sensation and how the body, and the nervous system responds to them.
You'll be guided through simple rope and restraint exercises, sensory exploration of pain and pleasure, teasing and anticipation, and a playful, approachable introduction to paddles and impact play.
Always as safe as possible, conscious, and at your own pace. A journey with no end goal other than curious exploration.
You'll leave with a richer vocabulary of touch and sensation, a deeper trust in each other's signals, and simple practices you can keep exploring long after the ritual ends.
The Structure:
Communal landing and grounding:
Together we slow down, exit the everyday world and enter into ritual space, a space guided by awareness and intentionality and separate from regular reality. You’ll get to meet the other couples and to ease into this space.
Explorations:
Most of this journey will be the preparation for the ritual play space, exploring the world of sensations & presence.
The power of ropes: You will get to play with the holding quality of bondage ropes as a tool towards no-mind and presence.
Pain and pleasure: We approach and explore pain as a tool for pleasure, finding that sweet spot where pain transforms into a deep source of pleasure.
Impact play: We will play with anticipation, gentle warm-ups and the different qualities that impact play can have.
Ritual play space:
The journey concludes in a ritual play space, a space held for you and your partner to play with what you learned and explored throughout the day.The culmination of the day. This exploration can take many different forms and while you get a clear frame to guide you, you also get the freedom to explore within it.
This is Ritual II of three. It's a complete experience on its own; you're very welcome even if it's the only ritual you attend.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
Rituals of Mystery is created mainly for established couples who want to reconnect and rediscover each other, but it's open to others too. This is for the brave who dare to venture beyond what they already know, or think to know about each other. For those who are ready to explore themselves and each other anew.
Couples of all ages, across all genders, identities and relationship dynamics are warmly welcome, whether you've been together three days or thirty years.
CAN I JOIN AS A BEGINNER?
Yes: Complete beginners, experienced kinksters, and everyone in between belong here equally.
DO I NEED A PARTNER?
Yes, these rituals are designed for you and a partner, you cannot attend alone.
DRESSCODE
Wear something comfortable that you can move around freely in. We encourage you to dress up and wear something that fits the vibe: sensual, nice to touch, something that your partner will appreciate. Please no street wear.
WHAT TO BRING
Bring a water bottle, a journal and a pen for taking notes and some of the exercises. Bring a sarong or towel to put underneath you.
TIMES
Doors open at 12.30 to land softly in the space
Doors close and we start at 13:00, no late entry
We end at 18.00
TICKETS
560 kr per couple for members
700 kr per couple for non-members
We offer a 20% discount to students and low income. Discounts cannot be used on top of other discounts. Please reach out to info@houseofplay.dk Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here
CODE OF CONDUCT
Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct
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ABOUT THE FACILITATORS
Hi, I’m Philipp (he/him) (call me Pyt). I’ve been creating intimate events and workshops for years. I love creating spaces where people can explore, play, unfold and enjoy themselves. I am particularly excited about this workshop series as it will be my first time bringing my more kink adjacent offerings to Copenhagen.
I work as a life coach and kink facilitator. Check out more at www.softkink.dk and www.softerdating.dk
Laura Tatar (she/they) has a connection kink and a passion for facilitating transformation and healing through humor and play, especially around “the things people don’t want to talk about”. She teaches and holds spaces for consent, boundaries, conflict, and grief - guiding folks on their journeys to accepting more parts of themselves in favor of wholeness and authenticity. Laura is a theatre creator, holds a Masters in Social Work for Crisis and Trauma, and has facilitated workshops and supported consent angels in various S+ spaces.