#2: Bondage and Sushi Ritual
This series of three ritualistic, deeply erotic evenings is created by visual artist and sex educator Dorte Holbek, following a visit to Japan.
Dorte is inspired by the eight core aesthetic principles in Japanese culture: Bi, Mei, Ma, Hi, So, Ka, Chi and Ha.
The evenings do not aim to recreate Japanese rituals or traditions; however after visiting Japan in the spring, Dorte came home deeply inspired and envisioned these three rituals, where the Japanese inspiration and Dorte’s many years of experience with kink and art, blend into three unique experiences.
In each of the evenings, we invite you into a slow, mostly non-verbal, playful and deeply erotic atmosphere with a hint of Kyoto Incense, where the rules are set when you enter.
Each of the evenings will explore one of eight aesthetic principles and will allow you to slow down, look more closely, notice all the small details, without having the responsibility of holding the structure.
The Ritual Room will be divided into small areas, each with a ceremonial wooden platter for the tools and servings for each couple. An assistant will bring you the ritual tools when it is time.
During the rituals you will follow the soft and subtle instructions.The instructions will be open-ended, allowing plenty of time to interpret the instruction in your own delicate and creative way.
The Ritual
In this ritual we will explore the element of HI, meaning something like: only partly exposed, stimulating the viewer’s imagination and curiosity about what remains hidden. We will slowly dive into sensually exposing parts of the body, the sensual smell of the sushi, the experience of being tied, and all the emotional and connective qualities that emerge as the elements intertwine.
This ritual is about the anticipation, the exposure, edging, humiliation, adoration, pain, praise, feeding, connection, a melting interplay between the two of you.You don’t need any rope skills. This is not about knots or patterns. It’s about presence.
At the end of the slow, teasing rope play and sushi ritual you will be served a glass of delightful, warm sake.
DO I NEED A PARTNER?
Yes you do. You will arrive in pairs and we don't mix. Please choose a partner, a friend or a buddy, you feel safe with. Before the ritual starts you will choose who will take on the leading role and who should be the receiving part. There will be no switching during the event.
TIMES
You can participate in one, two or all three evenings as you wish.
#1: Matcha and Cane Ritual
22 October 2025, 19.00-22.00
#2: Bondage and Sushi Ritual (you're looking at this event)
19 November 2025, 19.00-22.00
#3: Honey and Calligraphy Ritual
10 December 2025, 19.00-22.00
You can arrive and land in the space from 18.30. Please come early.
Doors close at 19.00 and you can not enter after this time.
If you are late, you may lose your ticket.
DRESSCODE
You can dress in whatever feels comfortable, beautiful or hot for you, and we invite you to contribute to the ritualistic and erotic atmosphere. Also keep in mind that your body may be observed and praised, bit by bit, by your partner during the session.
WHAT TO BRING
For this ritual you will bring your own single rope, or you can borrow a rope in House of Play, and four pieces of sushi that you like. Each piece should be different.
Bring a plain dark bath towel.
TICKETS
These are exclusive evenings with only 12 couples participating, instructed by Dorte Holbæk and a co-facilitator, and tended to by a number of servants.
You need to sign up as a couple. One ticket is for one couple.
480 kr per couple for members
600 kr per couple for non-members per event
If you buy tickets for all three events:
1150 kr per couple for members saving 290 kr
1480 per couple for non-members saving 320 kr
If you want to join all three evenings, write to info@houseofplay.dk to get a discount code.
Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here: https://www.houseofplay.dk/terms-and-conditions
CONSENT AND CODE OF CONDUCT
At each event we will guide you in how to take care of your own and your partners boundaries throughout the ritual. All instructions are invitations for you to do what feels right and safer for you.
Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct https://www.houseofplay.dk/code-of-conduct.
Chilies
🌶️🌶️🌶️ out of 4 chilies.
Read more about our chili system here: https://www.houseofplay.dk/chili-system.
ABOUT THE FACILITATOR
Dorte Holbek (she/her) is a psychotherapist specialising in kink and poly relationships and a tantra teacher. Throughout the years she has given many workshops in different aspects of these subjects. Coming from the art world, Dorte is curious to create new playful, soulful and deep formats between art, ritual, exploration and kink. Dorte is part of the House of Play crew and also through many years part of the organiser group for Kinky Salon Copenhagen.
WANT TO KNOW MORE?
You don't have to know anything about the Japanese principles of aesthetics to participate, but if they make you curious, you can explore the principles here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdXz1HNKz9A