A gentle space for real connection
This event is for people aged 40 and up*
You're not alone in feeling it: the pull toward real connection, the exhaustion of online dating, the hunger to meet someone who sees you.
Softer Dating is built for that longing.
We create the time and space, in real life, where authentic connection can actually happen.
We understand that being in such a space might feel intimidating. That’s why there will be plenty of time to land together and find calmness before engaging with others.
At its heart, Softer Dating is about connection, intimacy, authenticity and curiosity and not outcomes. Regardless of whether you meet the love of your life or not, you will hopefully feel nourished, connected and joyful!
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THE EVENING
Part 1: Moments of connection
You’ll meet a range of people through short, guided one-on-one experiences. By removing the pressure of choosing, we create space to simply be present and curious.
Consent is explicit throughout. All exercises are invitations, you can always choose to do less or observe.
Part 2: Guided exploration with choice
As the group has landed and found comfort together, you now choose who you partner with. We’ll explore connection through:
• Moving your body (dance, movement)
• Mindful touch (soft, consensual)
• Curious conversations
• Observation & rest (take a break anytime)
Touch and closeness may arise, if desired. The atmosphere is intimate but not se*ual. No nudity, no pressure.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
People aged 40+ looking for meaningful connections. Any gender expression, style of relating, and sexual preference welcome.
We are usually 25-40 people
CAN I JOIN AS A BEGINNER?
Yes! No prior experience is needed!
DO I NEED A PARTNER?
No need to bring a partner, though it might be a great idea to have a friend join!
DRESSCODE
Wear something comfortable & moveable that shows who you are
WHAT TO BRING
Just bring yourself!
(and a water bottle with a lid, as open containers are not permitted in the space)
TIMES
Doors open at 17:30 for you to land softly in the space.
Doors close at 18:00 where we start. Please be on time, as you will likely not be permitted entry once we start
The event lasts 3 hours and ends at 21:00.
TICKETS
280 kr for members
350 kr for non-members
Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here.
CODE OF CONDUCT
Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct.
CHILIES
🌶️ of 4
Read more about our chili system here.
ABOUT THE FACILITATOR
My name is Philipp, but you may call me Pyt!
I’ve been creating intimate events and workshops for the past few years, and simply love creating spaces for people to unfold and enjoy themselves!
I work as a life coach and facilitator, you can check out my work here.
QUESTIONS
What if I don’t like an exercise?
You can observe instead. We encourage people to take care of their boundaries—it happens and we think it’s wonderful.
What if I feel awkward?
Awkwardness and shyness are welcome. You don’t need to pretend. Most people relax naturally after some time.
What about the gender ratio?
We can’t guarantee your preference will be there, but so far we’ve had a wide, colorful distribution of different genders
What if I’m paired with someone I don’t find attractive?
Softer Dating is about connection, not just romance. Can you bring respect and curiosity, even if there’s no spark?
*Why age ranges? We want you to feel like you’re in the right room. Not wondering if everyone is 22 or if you’re the youngest by a decade. Age ranges aren’t about exclusion, they’re about creating comfort and confidence. We offer events for different age brackets.