(Age 40)+*
You're not the only one feeling it:
The wish for real connection, the exhaustion of online dating, the hunger to meet someone who sees you.
Softer Dating is built for that longing.
We create the time and space, in real life, where authentic connection can actually happen.
At its heart, Softer Dating is about connection, intimacy, authenticity, and curiosity and not outcomes. Regardless of whether you meet the love of your life, make a friend or find a lover, you will hopefully leave the event feeling nourished, connected and joyful!
We understand that being in such a space might feel intimidating. That’s why there will be plenty of time to land together and find calmness before engaging with others.
You will also get paired up with a Wingperson, your personal ally throughout the evening!
Love, Pyt
THE EVENING
Part 1: Landing
We will spend some time arriving and landing together. Transitioning from the rushed pace of everyday life, to presence and slowness.
Part 2: Moments of connection
You’ll meet a range of people through short, guided one-on-one experiences. By removing the pressure of choosing, we create space to simply be present and curious.
Consent is explicit throughout. All exercises are invitations, you can always choose to do less or observe.
Part 3: Guided exploration with choice
As the group has landed and found comfort together, you now choose who you partner with. We’ll explore connection through:
• Moving your body (dance, movement)
• Mindful touch (soft, consensual)
• Curious conversations
• Observation & rest (take a break anytime)
Touch and closeness may arise, if desired. The atmosphere is intimate but not se*ual. No nudity, no pressure.
WHAT YOU'LL TAKE WITH YOU
Beyond the evening itself, many people leave with:
New ways of connecting - discovering forms of interaction that go beyond talking
Greater body awareness - more in touch with your own body, your yes and no
Self-knowledge - understanding yourself more deeply through experience rather than analysis
Confidence - both in social spaces and in honoring your own boundaries
A shifted perspective - on how you approach people and relationships going forward
You'll learn to take responsibility for your own experience, developing the skill and ability to shape what happens rather than waiting for the other person to create it. This often translates into presence, a quality that serves you far beyond dating
WHO IS THIS FOR?
People aged 40+ looking for meaningful connections. Any gender expression, style of relating, and sexual preference welcome. Usually 25-40 people
DO I NEED EXPERIENCE?
No! Beginners are very welcome.
DO I NEED TO BRING A PARTNER?
No, though it might be nice to bring a friend/Wingperson!
WHAT TO WEAR?
Wear something comfortable & moveable that shows who you are
TIMES
Doors open: 18:30 to land softly int he space
We start at 19:00, doors close and you might not be permitted entry after
End: 22:00
TICKETS
280 kr for members
350 kr for non-members
We offer a 20% discount to students and low income. Discounts cannot be used on top of other discounts. Please reach out to info@houseofplay.dk
Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here
CODE OF CONDUCT & MORE
Please read our Code of Conduct before attending
🌶️ of 4 Chilis
Read about our chili system
QUESTIONS?
What if I don’t like an exercise?
You can observe instead. We encourage people to take care of their boundaries—it happens and we think it’s wonderful.
What if I feel awkward?
Awkwardness and shyness are welcome. You don’t need to pretend. Most people relax naturally after some time.
What about the gender ratio?
We can’t guarantee your preference will be there, but so far we’ve had a wide, colorful distribution of genders!
What if I’m paired with someone I don’t find attractive?
Softer Dating is about connection, not just romance. Can you bring respect and curiosity, even if there’s no spark?
*Why age ranges? We want you to feel like you’re in the right room. Not wondering if everyone is 22 or if you’re the youngest by a decade. Age ranges aren’t about exclusion, they’re about creating comfort and confidence. We offer events for different age brackets.
ABOUT THE FACILITATORS
Hi, I’m Philipp (call me Pyt). I’ve been creating intimate events and workshops for years because I love creating spaces where people can unfold and enjoy themselves.
I work as a life coach and kink facilitator. Check out more at www.softkink.dk