Same series with new topics. A three-part journey inviting you to soften, sense, and explore your relationship with vulva pleasure through slow, guided self-touch in community.
Welcome to the Awakening Pleasure Series
Many of us move through life so quickly that slowing down can feel strange or even uncomfortable. In this series, we take a different pace – the pace of the body. Together we explore one area of the vulva at a time, with guided exercises that help you listen inwardly, notice subtle sensations, and invite you to reconnect with your own pleasure.
These gatherings are quiet, introspective, and slow; not performative or goal-oriented.
Across three monthly evenings, we’ll gently meet areas of tension, numbness, or overwhelm; get curious about what your body is communicating; and rebuild trust with your own rhythms. Each session stands alone, and you’re welcome to join one or all.
AWAKENING PLEASURE: Arousal as a Flavour – 25/May
Arousal as a Flavour
Arousal is not just about what happens in the genitals – it’s an entire-body, whole-being process. In many of our lives, arousal has become rushed, goal-focused, or shut down by stress, shame, or past experiences.
In this session, we explore arousal as a flavour: something you can cultivate, tend to, and play with over time. Drawing on teachings Anke has gathered over the years, we’ll weave together movement, breath, sound, touch and awareness to open more space for pleasure and aliveness in your body.
You’ll be guided through a self-pleasure practice focused on self-care rather than performance. We’ll use different qualities of touch (nurturing, sensual, devotional), breathwork, and sound – and you’re always invited to adapt, pause, or simply witness your own body.
This session is for you if you want to deepen your relationship with your own arousal, explore pleasure beyond “just getting off,” and meet both your desire and your armour with respect.
PRACTICALITIES
WHAT TO EXPECT
A slow pace
You’ll be guided step by step, with time to pause, feel, and follow your own pace.Guided self-touch
Simple techniques to help soften tension, increase awareness, and reconnect with sensation. We will specifically use a technique called soft self-de-armouring.Supportive group atmosphere
Practising alongside others – each person in their own space – can create a sense of belonging and ease: “We’re in this together!”
Everyone will focus on their own body and their own space.No expected outcomes
Some people feel more sensitivity or emotional shifts. Others feel very little at first. All of it is welcome.Choice at every step
You decide how much you engage and what feels right for your body on the day.
This Is for You If…
You’re curious to explore your body at a slower pace.
You want to build or rebuild trust and connection with yourself.
You’re open to staying present even if nothing intense or dramatic happens.
You value a consent-centered, non-judgmental space with others on a similar journey.
You’re ready to engage in self-touch in a group setting.
This Is Not for You If…
You’re looking for a quick fix or guaranteed results.
You feel unable to stay present if things feel too slow or too subtle.
You’re not ready for a longer, ongoing relationship with your own body and boundaries.
What previous participants have shared:
“To my big surprise, I experienced my first non-vibrator orgasm since my youth.”
“For the first time since my sexual harassment, I met other people (both Anke and other participants) who could relate to the issues I’m dealing with and with what could actually help me help myself better.”
“Anke is a beautiful soul who is enthusiastic about sharing her knowledge and understanding of the mind-body connection. In this workshop, Anke guided us through a deep exploration of ourselves, which greatly inspired me to deepen my own understanding of my body.”
“I meet frustration and grief of my lack of sensibility and how much I have put my body through, but I feel fully held by Anke and the space to go on this journey of slowness and reconnecting with my body from a more loving place.”
WHO IS THIS FOR
Vulva owners ready to explore sensuality and sensitivity in a communal setting. You are willing to practice self‑touch alongside others and can self‑regulate emotionally; the facilitator will guide but this is a self‑development space, not therapy.
No experience in de-armouring required.
Health & Safety – Participation is not suitable if you are pregnant, have active infections or outbreaks, severe unresolved psychological trauma, psychosis, or serious physical illness. When in doubt, reach out.
DRESS CODE
Wear something comfortable that makes you feel safe and/or sensual.
If you’d prefer extra coverage, a dress or skirt that allows easy access without exposing too much is recommended.
WHAT TO BRING
Body‑friendly oil or lube to support comfort and sensation.
Water bottle with lid.
Towels or blankets (e.g., sheep skin, sarong, fleece blanket, yoga mat) to create your intentional, cozy space to lay on. You might want to bring an extra blanket to cover yourself with if you wish to be (partially) naked.
Bring a journal & pen.
Optional: Blindfold for deeper inward focus.
Optional: Glass wand or dildo to support precise internal mapping and de-armouring. If you already have one, you’re welcome to bring it along. If you’d like recommendations for body-safe options, you can contact Anke.
TIME AND PLACE
Monday, 25 May 2026 from 19.00 to 22.00.
Please note that we begin on time, and you'll not be able to enter after the event begins; better to be early than late.
House of Play, Shetlandsgade 3, 1st floor, 2300 Copenhagen
TICKETS
450 DKK per person, non-members
360 DKK per person, 20%-discount member price
Bundle Offer: Get 20% off when booking all three sessions (864,- kr for members, 1080,- kr for non-members). To book the bundle, please email us at info@houseofplay.dk.
Tickets are personal and non-refundable.
Read our full terms and conditions here.
LEVEL: Beginners or experienced looking for guided practices.
CHILIES
🌶️🌶️🌶️: 3 of 4 – Nudity allowed; self-touch only – optional insertion of fingers or tools.
Read more about our chili system here.
FURTHER RESOURCES
If you’d like to explore some of the themes we touch on in this series, here are a few writings that go a little deeper:
Awakening Pleasure: A Gentle Guide to De-Armouring & Body Trust
What “awakening pleasure” really means, why slowing down matters, and how soft self-touch can reshape your relationship with your body.From Numbness to Sensation
A tender look at why numbness happens and why it doesn’t have to stay forever. You’re not alone in this question.Safety & Intimacy Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory
For those up for a slightly deeper dive: an exploration of how the nervous system shapes connection, boundaries, and sensual presence.
Your facilitator
Anke Van Mullem (she/her)
Anke is a Holistic Intimacy & Relationship Coach and the founder of Soul’n Soma. With years of hands‑on experience and a deeply personal healing journey, she’s passionate about helping individuals and couples build authentic, meaningful connections. Drawing from the wisdom of ancient Tantra and Taoism, alongside modern mindfulness and body‑based practices, Anke creates a warm, safe space for exploration, healing, and growth. Empowering women and people with vulvas is at the heart of her work, particularly through her transformative Jade Egg practice and guided self‑de‑armouring.